5 Challenges Both Men and Women Face in Dating

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When we think about dating, especially heterosexual dating, it’s not uncommon that we find ourselves taking sides. Women tend to highlight the challenges they face dating men, and men tend to focus on the difficulties they have around women; one side always trying to understand how the other can be such a mystery.

However, the more I talk to my single friends from both sides of the equation, and the more I pay attention to my own experience, the clearer it is that both men and women actually face a lot of the same challenges in dating — we’re just too focused on our own point-of-view to see the other side.

Here are 5 dating challenges that are definitely not sex-specific:

Lack of chemistry

You won’t have chemistry with everyone you go out with, that’s why whenever you do have chemistry with someone it feels so damn good.

You can’t pretend to have chemistry, you can’t make it up, it’s either there or it isn’t. With the prevalence of online dating, it seems like legitimate chemistry is even harder to find these days. You might match with someone online, have great texting chemistry with them, but discover the spark is missing when you finally meet in person.

The search for real chemistry leads both men and women on a string of first dates that lead nowhere. While that’s part of the process, it can be frustrating.

Mismatched values

If the chemistry is what ignites a relationship, matching values keep the flame alive.

Your values dictate how you see life, what matters to you in the present, and what your goals are for the future. Although compromising on values is not impossible, completely giving up on what you hold dear in order to please a potential mate is a recipe for disaster in the long run. You simply can’t last long with anyone unless your core values are the same.

Mismatched values can include, but are not limited to: whether you’d prefer a monogamous or polyamorous relationship; if you’d like to have children someday or not; how you’d handle finances as a couple; your opinion on religion, and so on.

Jaded partners

You have some dating experience under your belt — especially if you’re over 30. You’ve had your heart broken before, and chances are most people you go out with have had their hearts broken, too.

Every once in a while, you

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